Community, Social Belonging, Key to Preventing Military/Veterans’ Suicides; Not Prescriptions

Pharmacology Not Enough to Bring Down Suicide Rate Among Veterans

by Joseph Bobrow
Huffington Post, June 14, 2012

He was remote and suspicious, and I could feel how depressed he was.

A heavy set Iraq veteran, he came with his wife, who stayed close at all times. But he was not emotionally responsive to her, or to anyone for that matter. On the third evening of the retreat, he chose to watch a film called the Gifts of Grief, one of several programs that were offered.

Joseph Bobrow is a Zen Master and founder of The Coming Home Project

Two thirds of the way in, I saw him emerge from his deep freeze. First his eyes began to water, then a few tears ran down his cheeks. When the film ended, he got up. The color had returned to his face. His arm was around his wife. A few more tears trickled down. He made no effort to conceal or wipe them away.

As I approached him, he began to talk about his losses during the war, how unbearable they had been, how he hadn’t told anyone. There were more hugs with his wife, conversation, and, during the large group, he leaned over and gave her a kiss.

He began talking with his fellow vets. He was alive again. In a small group meeting he described how desperate he’d felt and revealed how he’d tried unsuccessfully to kill himself to end it. During the large closing circle he surprised everyone by speaking and expressing his gratitude to all gathered. It was visible that the depression had lifted, at least for the moment. He’d come back from the dead.

Then he said something that stopped me: he looked forward to seeing everyone again next year, if he was still here.

This veteran was already in psychological treatment, and on all kinds of medications. After the retreat, a fellow spouse whom his wife had befriended contacted me and let me know that his house was being foreclosed on. It had brought him spiraling back down, and he’d become suicidal again.

The support and resources he and his wife received from fellow vets and spouses they’d connected with at the retreat helped him make it through intact.

There are other examples of vets expressing suicidal feelings and even revealing attempts, past and planned, that they’ve never told anyone, sometimes even their therapist.

A new Department of Defense report brings into sharp focus just how elusive a solution to the continuing alarming rise in suicides among active duty service members is.

In 2012, there have been 154 military suicides in 155 days, a rate of one per day, more than the number of combat deaths during the same period.

But when at-risk veterans are in a safe environment with fellow vets they trust, and with whom they can stay connected — that’s what can begin to make a huge difference — Jospeh Bobrow, founder, The Coming Home Project

And suicides have also eclipsed car crashes as the top “non-combat” cause of US troop deaths. It is truly alarming that these numbers do not include National Guard and Reservists and Veterans.

Paul Rieckhoff, Executive Director of Iraq and Afghanistan Veterans of America, reports that 37 percent of the Iraq and Afghanistan veterans among their approximately 160,000 members know another veteran who has committed suicide.

But when at-risk veterans are in a safe environment with fellow vets they trust, and with whom they can stay connected — that’s what can begin to make a huge difference.

At the Coming Home Project, we call it the power of community. In the military, it goes by the name unit cohesion. In the research world, social support. Although not a panacea, it heals and prevents, strengthens and inoculates, all at the same time. Unit cohesion correlated, in one study, with lower suicide rates.

Feeling safe, understood, and accepted without judgment are pivotal elements of community.

Another key is a sense of belonging. Dr. David Kahn, an authority on suicide prevention, wrote in 2008 about studies with students, “Connection and a feeling of social belonging is, I think, the most important initial step in preventing suicide,” he said.

“Once the person feels that sense of trust in belonging to the community, they may be more receptive to suggestions that they seek help, if they haven’t sought it already.” This was confirmed at every turn at Coming Home’s recent student veterans’ retreat near Yosemite.

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